"Can we do this by the end of the week?" he says with a wry smile and chuckle.
"Sorry, but it might take a bit longer than that."
Healing core wounds is a process that requires diligent work and commitment. Often the process feels overwhelming, but the rewards are worth the struggle.
Ben was on of those clients willing to dig in and stay the course. Although his marriage ended in divorce, he found a sense of peace and connection with himself that he'd never dreamed possible. Ben was able to address his deep-seated anger and heal his shame in healthy ways (the specifics of which we will discuss in later chapters). Ben no longer needed to use his sexualized anger to cover his shame core.
Sexual addiction has primarily been seen as a male disorder; this is due to cultural stereotype that sex addicts are, among other things, perverted, deviant, or over-sexed men. Given the perception, identifying women as sex addicts is often perceived, both in personal and professional realms, as inapplicable.
Further complicating this diagnostic block is the fact that the mental health field does not officially recognize sexual addiction as a mental "disorder," meaning it is not listed in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the manual used to diagnose or evaluate individual's behaviors.
Without a "legitimized" diagnosis for sexual addiction, some mental health practitioners question its validity. This situation leaves the probability that those who are suffering will be diagnosed or treated for the disease -- a disease that can be fatal.