Exploitative sex is an overt act of power and control over someone who is vulnerable, such as the recently divorced mother of three, the salesperson depending on the boss for advancement, the person with a mental or physical disability, the college student who needs tutoring from her professor, the frail and the elderly, or the child.
Usually the sexually compulsive abuser does not see himself as being exploitative; rather, he views himself as being supportive and helpful.
Chet sits in my office. He is impeccably groomed. With crisp, articulate speech, he describes the recent breakup with his partner that has brought him in for counseling.
"What do you look for in a woman?" I ask.
"That's the problem," Chet says with a sheepish expression. "I always get myself in trouble."